http://www.PositiveDiscipline.com - Jane Nelsen talks about her book Positive Time-Out and how parents and teachers can avoid power struggles at home and in the classroom. There are 50 ways to avoid power struggles with your children in this book but there are thousands more once you understand the basic problem we create when we make discipline about power and control. We cannot control every action of another human being unless we use force, fear and threats. And, yes, those tactics do work in the short run but once you turn your back or leave your child alone control is gone. It's much more effective to teach our children to monitor and control themselves. Positive Discipline is an approach that teaches parents positive and effective ways of getting our children to be responsible for themselves. There are some parenting experts who advocate a "time-out place", a "time-out box" or some other designated area where a child can go and "think about" what they just did. Unfortunately, this just doesn't work but Positive Time-Out does. Learn the difference in this enlightening presentation by Dr. Jane Nelsen. She shows parents how to teach our children to use their "rational brain." She shows frustrated parents that there are so many options to ineffective parenting methods if you only know where to find them! Positive Time-Out is a book rich with refreshing, positive, and time-tested tactics for getting our children to listen better. Jane Nelsen shows how easy it is to give our children positive choices so that defensiveness and power struggles that arise during the heat of a difficult situation don't have to escalate and cause more pain than the original incident may have. In less than seven minutes, this video will show you several amazingly simple ways to guide your children towards making better choices without force, threats, or negative aspects of "time-out." Positive Time-Out gives parents and teachers the tools they need to build positive relationships with children while eliminating power struggles. Positive Discipline is a non-punitive approach that works over the long term not just the short term. Positive Discipline helps parents and teachers become aware of what their children are thinking, feeling and deciding. Teachers- If you want to change how your classroom responds to the many challenges facing teachers, learn how Positive Time-Out can help. Visit her site to get your FREE Parenting Guide. Dr. Nelsen is a parenting expert who has written 19 books on parenting. Dr. Nelsen resides in the San Diego area and is available nationwide for keynote addresses, parenting workshops, teacher training workshops and media interviews on any topic related to parenting. http://www.PositiveDiscipline.com.
http://www.PositiveDiscipline.com - Dr. Jane Nelsen is interviewed on TV to discuss the difference between discipline and punishment. Positive Discipline teaches parents how to focus on solutions. In this news clip, Jane Nelsen explains how parents can teach their children valuable skills rather than punish them into obedience. Dr. Nelsen explains that "No punishment" is not the same as being "Permissive." When children are having a temper tantrum because they want a toy, most parents try to talk them out of it. Then, as the child perseveres, many parents will give in because they don't want their child to be upset or because the parent doesn't know how to stop the whining. But by doing that, parents take away a learning opportunity for the child. Children can learn to develop their "Disappointment muscles." Dr. Nelsen believes that this life skill teaches children that they can survive the ups and downs of life because they have done so in small steps, early in life. Parenting today is challenging but with the right information and a little practice, parenting doesn't have to be so difficult. Jane Nelsen teaches parents how to make parenting fun again. Dr. Nelson explains the reality of what punitive "Time outs" can do for a child. Does time out work? Is there a better way? Learn why the "Naughty chair" approach just doesn't work. Watch this interview to learn new parenting skills you can put into practice today. For Jane Nelsen's FREE Parenting Guide, visit her website at http://www.PositiveDiscipline.com. Dr. Nelsen also provides one-on-one family consultations. Drop her an email to learn more.
http://www.PositiveDiscipline.com - Dr. Jane Nelsen author of Positive Discipline demonstrates dealing with the belief behind the behavior. Bringing home the new baby from the hospital can have a big impact on the family. Here is an amazingly simple and beautiful way to demonstrate the power of love to a toddler so that transitioning that new child into your home will be much easier. The candle exercise the Dr. Jane Nelson demonstrates is a perfect metaphor for the endless power of love. Positive Discipline is a philosophy of parenting that gives parents the tools they need to effectively teach and guide their children to become successful and happy adults. Siblings can adjust to a new family member better with a little planning. Watch Jane's candle exercise and try your own version at home! For a FREE Parenting Guide and more information on effective parenting, visit Jane Nelson's website athttp://www.PositiveDiscipline.com. P.S. Find out how Jane's Parenting Tool Cards can dramatically change the effectiveness of your parenting skills! Watch this brief parenting video tip so you can find a more effective way of teaching than yelling, telling, and ordering kids into good behavior. For a free Positive Discipline Guideline visit Jane Nelsen's website. Behavior problems are usually learning opportunities for parents who are willing to learn some new skills. Jane Nelson provides a variety of parent education classes, parenting workshops, and parenting coaching. Dr. Jane Nelsen has written and co-written 18 books on the topic of parenting and speaks around the world on her favorite topic. For more parenting tips and free audios, videos, and downloads visit Dr. Jane Nelsen's website athttp://www.PositiveDiscipline.com. "How to get kids to behave?" is a common question but the answer lies in answering this question... "How do we get parents to learn more about parenting?"
http://www.PositiveDiscipline.com. In 90 seconds you'll quickly understand how Dr. Jane Nelsen, author of Positive Discipline, can teach parents how to get their children to become better listeners. This is one of Dr. Nelsen's most asked question - "How can I get my child to listen?" Parents might be surprised to learn that if THEY were better listeners their children might be as well. Parents are busy talking, telling, explaining, going on and on about why their child should be listening. And of course, while mom and dad are rambling away, kids tune out! So if you want your children to listen to you, listen to them. Children are much more likely to listen to you if you FIRST, listen to them. Many parents feel it is their job to tell their children everything. Tell them what to do, what happened, what to feel about it, etc. The more we tell, the less they listen. Dr. Nelsen's Positive Discipline approach to parenting teaches the importance of ASKING QUESTIONS! "Honey, what were you trying to accomplish? What do you think caused that to happen? How do you feel about it? What did you decide? What ideas do you have to solve the problem?" Most parents are surprised at how effective this approach can be. Yes, it may take a few more minutes in the beginning but the long-term benefits are huge. For example, we tell our children, "Don't forget to take your coat!" That seems like the right thing to do as a caring parent but the reality is, it would be much more effective to say, "What do you need to take so that you won't get cold today?" Take note of yourself today and notice how often you TELL your child what to do instead of asking open ended, thinking questions. The goal of the Positive Discipline approach is to use every opportunity as a learning opportunity. Positive Discipline allows your child to learn life skills through everyday experiences. Positive Discipline is not about punishment. Positive Discipline is not about control and power. So what is Positive Discipline? Positive Discipline is both Kind and Firm at the same time. Positive Discipline helps children feel a sense of Belonging and Significance. Positive Discipline is a non-punitive approach that works over the long term not just the short term. There are more parenting tips in this video and many more on Dr. Nelsen's website.. Parenting expert, Dr. Jane Nelsen is available for keynotes, one-on-one family counseling, radio, TV, and other media interviews. She has written 19 books, hundreds of parenting articles, and appeared on major media for years. Get your FREE Parenting Guide at www.PositiveDiscipline.com.
NC State University's Very Important Parents program handout explaining how to use natural and logical consequences to teach children about behavior expectations.
The Positive Discipline Parenting Scale is a scale that was developed to be used for positive discipline parenting programs. A description of the scale is attached.